Despite how it may seem, those who live with depression are acutely aware of the good things in their life. They appreciate those things and understand that they should feel thankful for them – and indeed they do feel thankful. However, this recognition serves not to help the depressed individual, but rather, it makes them feel the sting of guilt and shame for feeling depressed despite their blessings. Even so, I do think it’s important to remember that there are good things in our lives, no matter how dark it may be at times. Thus, this post lists a few things I am grateful for:
- My daughter. She is such a joy to be with and I am so happy that we chose to have a child. As I watch her grow each day, my heart swells. Listening to her innocent, silly laugh. Watching her goofy personality develop. These are all things I look forward to each day, and my life is better because of her.
- My wife. I love her dearly and watching her with our daughter makes me love her even more. Marriage is hard, and like all couples we have our issues, but we have a wonderful relationship. We both work very hard to understand and support one another Sometimes, we both come up short, but we keep at it.
- Being sober. Today marks the 220th day since I quit drinking and I am thankful for that every single day. Today I woke up to the sunrise and felt rested and happy to start my day. That feeling is hard enough to attain with the weight of depression bearing down; it is simply not possible when every day is begun with the fog of a hangover.
- My health. Granted, I have issues, not the least of which is a rare genetic predisposition to cancer that all but ensures I will someday battle that awful disease. Nonetheless, I feel healthy right now, and for that I am grateful.
- My job. I won’t expound, but suffice it to say that I adore my job. “I’ve arrived,” as they say. I make a very respectable salary that allows me to live in comfort and save for retirement. I have excellent medical insurance such that I need not worry (too much) about medical expenses. My superiors are a joy to work for and my subordinates an honor to lead. I’m good at my job, I’m well-respected in my field, and I couldn’t really ask for more.
- My support network. I don’t have a lot of friends, but the few I do have are true and they care about me. Like marriage, having family is hard at times, but they are there for me and I love them and appreciate them more than ever. Aside from my friends and family, I have an awesome therapist and I feel so lucky to have her on my side.
That’s it for now. I could come up with more to add to this list, but these are the really important things to me right now. I intend to look back on this list from time-to-time in order to remind myself that I’m a pretty lucky guy, all things considered.